How can I get my husband to truly empathise with the fact that I want him back in my life?

All I can say is your mistakes in the beginning stages of your marriage has brought you closer to God.I hope your husband will truly see that.In the meantime keep doing what your doing and I hope your husband will let go of the hurt past and realize your the one for him.I recommend Fireproof a kirk cameron movie it will inspire your hope in trying to save your marriage it really is a great film.